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The Responsible Child — SJ Originally a post on my blog at http://blog.raywlincoln.com, this was requested by one of my readers as a PDF. If you are raising an SJ (or are an SJ yourself), this provides some pointers for building and maximizing the SJ strengths.
How to Observe Your Child and Prepare Yourself for the Child Temperament Key) This handy guide will help you to observe the actions of your child that will reveal his/her preferences. Our four areas of preferences are the indicators of our personal urges created by our temperaments. Because our young children cannot answer the questions themselves and lack sufficient life experience, we rely on the parents' observations of the child's actions.
Our temperament's urges produce preferences that result in consistent and identifiable actions. We can then identify the child's temperament through observation of these actions which indicate their preferences and from which we can detect the urges of temperament.
How to Identify the Temperaments of Others This handy, quick reference will give you a very general and preliminary guide to understanding people you come in contact with. It is not intended to "assess" a person's temperament, only to give you the clues for a cursory estimate that further interaction will confirm or refute. However, it can be helpful in fostering more congenial and productive relationships in almost any setting.
The Responsible Child — SJ Originally a post on my blog at http://blog.raywlincoln.com, this was requested by one of my readers as a PDF. If you are raising an SJ (or are an SJ yourself), this provides some pointers for building and maximizing the SJ strengths.
This simple, short, and entertaining skit, developed by our associate, Shandra Weese, for use with her church group, will give you a quick look into the "mirror" of each of the four temperaments. It's great to use with group relationship training so that humor can help to bridge the gaps between opposing temperaments.
RAY'S RECOMMENDED READS
Many people do not like to read. However, I would encourage development of the habit, even if it is on a small scale. I read a minimum of 50 books every year. Yes, that is an average of almost one book each week. Most of my reading is nonfiction. While I don't believe or agree with everything I read, it is a good exercise in developing and confirming my own philosophy. I will add more to the list below from time to time, but here are some good ones to begin with.
For Parents and Grandparents:
- Harkey, Nancy and Jourgensen, Teri. Raising Cuddlebugs and Bravehearts, Volumes 1 and 2. Authorhouse, 2004.
- --------- Parenting by Temperament, (Publisher unknown) 2009
- Eliot, Lise. What’s Going On In There? How the Brain and Mind Develop in the First Five Years of Life. (Interesting notes on temperament and child growth.) A Bantam Trade Paperback. 1999.
- Friel, John C. and Linda D. The Seven Worst Things Good Parents Do. Fall River, 1999.
- Keirsey, David. Abuse It — Lose It: Logical Consequences for Teaching Self-Control to Mischievous Children. Prometheus Nemesis Books
- Do, Mimi with Marsha Walch, 10 Principles for Spiritual Parenting, Harper Paperbacks, 1998
- GrandLoving - Making Memories with Your Grandchildren. Johnson, Sue; Carlson, Julie; Bower, Elizabeth. Fifth edition. Heartstrings Press, 2010.
- Heller, Ph.D., Dear God — Children's Letters to God. A Perigree Book, Berkley Publishing Group.
For Those Interested In A Deeper Understanding of Temperament:
- Ray W. Lincoln. Would the Real Me Please Stand Up (to be released November 2010)
- Keirsey, David. Please Understand Me II: Temperament, Character, Intelligence.Prometheus Nemesis Books, 1998. --------- Portraits of Temperament, Prometheus Nemesis Books, 1987.
- Montgomery, Stephen. People Patterns: A Modern Guide to the Temperaments. Archer Publications, 2002.
- --------- The Pygmalion Project: Love and Coercion Among the Types. Volume One, The Artisan. Prometheus Nemesis Books, 1989.
- --------- The Pygmalion Project: Love and Coercion Among the Types. Volume Two, The Guardian. Prometheus Nemesis Books, 1990.
- --------- The Pygmalion Project: Love and Coercion Among the Types. Volume Three, The Idealist. Prometheus Nemesis Books, 1993.
- Briggs Myers, Isabel with Myers, Peter B. Gifts Differing: Understanding Personality Type. Davies-Black Publishing, 1995.
For Children (or Parents to Read to Children):
- Jones, Jackie Sam Meets Caterpillar Sam (G-Bugs series), G. Bugs Press, Canada. 2007
- Lorilyn Roberts. The Donkey and the King, Virtualbookworm.com Publishing. 2004
- Lewis, C. S. The Lion, the Witch, and the Wardrobe
For Inspiration to Achieve:
- Keives, Tama J. This Time I Dance, Tarcher/Putnam, 2003
- Mandino, Og. The Spellbinders Gift, Ballantine Books. 1995
- --------- The Greatest Salesman in the World, Frederick Fell, 1968, Bantam. 1974
- --------- The Greatest Miracle in the World, Frederick Fell, 1975
- --------- The Return of the Ragpicker, Bantam. 1992
- --------- The Twelfth Angel, Ballantine Books, 1993
- Edited by Og Mandino. Og Mandino's Treasury of Success Unlimited, Simon and Schuster. 1955
- Pausch, Randy with Jeffrey Zaslow. The Last Lecture, Hyperion. 2008
Miscellaneous
- Dr. Judith Orloff, Second Sight, Three Rivers Press. 2010
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A handy and compact reference for parents and a valuable tool in parenting the temperaments represented in their progeny. It contains detailed descriptions of the four temperaments and provides initial suggestions for how to parent each specifically. $8.00
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